Emotions Anonymous

1. Introduction

Version followed: Emotions Anonymous International (EAI, St. Paul, Minnesota) as it describes itself in its current free pamphlets (Welcome to a New Way of Life #28; Meeting Flier #36; How Our Meetings Work #37; Information for the Healthcare Provider #63), its History and Healthcare Provider web pages, and one EA group's published meeting format (the online "Utilizing Not Analyzing" Step meeting). EA's books (Emotions Anonymous, 1978, revised 1996; Today, 1987; It Works If You Work It, 2003) are not drawn on [uncertain where cited only via secondary sources].

What it is. Emotions Anonymous is a mutual-aid fellowship, not a therapy. It is a peer-run, non-facilitated Twelve-Step programme, adapted with permission from Alcoholics Anonymous, for anyone with emotional difficulties who wants to become emotionally well. EA itself states it is not a medical, psychiatric or counselling service, gives no advice or counsel, and is meant as "complementary support", "not a replacement for professional therapies" [source: EA Healthcare Provider page; Welcome to a New Way of Life #28]. Meetings are run by members; professionals do not run meetings but may attend as ordinary members [source: #28]. A clinician therefore does not deliver EA. This guide is written for a therapist who refers clients to EA, works alongside it, or draws on its principles; the clinician procedures are marked [synthesis] unless EA publishes them.

Origins (as EA and secondary sources report). Marion F. (identified in secondary sources as Marion Flesch, 1911–2004) started the first group on 13 April 1966 in St. Paul, Minnesota, under the name Neurotics Anonymous. After disagreements with the Neurotics Anonymous central offices, the Minnesota Intergroup separated and became Emotions Anonymous; articles of incorporation were filed on 22 July 1971, with permission from AA World Services to use the Steps and Traditions. The first convention (1972) ratified the bylaws and elected the first international board. EA literature is translated into 16 languages and used in over 30 countries [source: EAI History page]. Secondary sources add that Marion attended Al-Anon for panic attacks before starting the group and give 6 July 1971 as the separation date [source: Wikipedia; uncertain where it differs from EAI's own account, which says she started the group after reading a newspaper article on using AA's programme for emotional illness].

How change is understood to happen. Members admit powerlessness over their emotions (Step 1, adapted from AA's powerlessness over alcohol) [source: Wikipedia, citing EA literature; uncertain], work the Twelve Steps in daily life, and use a set of tools (Steps, Traditions, Helpful Concepts, Just for Today, slogans, Promises, literature, meetings, phone contacts, sponsorship, service) to replace isolation and self-centredness with acceptance, a Higher Power of their own understanding and service to others. The stated aim is "emotional sobriety" and serenity: learning to live with unsolved problems while finding peace of mind [source: Healthcare Provider page and #63; meeting format document; Annual Report 2021–22].

2. Framework

EA has no clinical phases, session count or graduation. It is open-ended, weekly, and lifelong for those who choose to stay [source: #28; #63]. What follows is (a) the structure EA publishes and (b) a clinician's referral framework [synthesis].

(a) Structure as EA publishes it

• Format: usually one meeting per week, about an hour [duration: uncertain, not stated in sources], in person, by phone, Zoom or online chat. First names only; confidential; free, with voluntary donations (Tradition 7) [source: #28; #63; Meeting Flier #36].
• Membership: the only requirement is a desire to become emotionally well; open to all backgrounds; no dues [source: #36; #63].
• Typical meeting (one group's published format): opening overview read by the servant leader → Serenity Prayer said together → volunteer readings of the Helpful Concepts, Just for Today, Slogans (with the Four A's), Twelve Traditions, Twelve Steps, Twelve Promises → meditation or reflection on the week's Step or topic → Step or topic reading, one paragraph per volunteer → sharing on the reading (2–3 minutes each, passing allowed) → closing (call for next servant leader, confidentiality reminder, welcome to newcomers, short reading on honesty, openness and willingness, donations, Serenity Prayer) [source: "Utilizing Not Analyzing" meeting format]. Other groups vary; EAI sells a laminated Suggested Format for Meetings card (#7) [source: EA Catalog].
• Meeting types: many are Step meetings, discussing a different Step each week; topic and literature readings also occur [source: How Our Meetings Work #37; meeting format].
• Member trajectory EA describes: newcomer tries six to twelve meetings, sampling different groups, before deciding whether EA fits [source: #37] → works the Steps, generally in order, using the EA book and the 12x12 workbook, often with a sponsor [source: #37; Catalog] → shares recovery with newcomers, hosts meetings, takes service roles or sponsors others [source: #63; Annual Report 2021–22]. The Annual Report states that a prior EA programme evaluation found the most engaged members (attending, hosting, sponsoring, serving) reported the best emotional health [source: Annual Report 2021–22; uncertain].

(b) Clinician's referral framework [synthesis]

3. Guiding principles

Principles EA publishes (paraphrased)

• One requirement: a desire to become emotionally well. No diagnosis or severity threshold is needed; refer people with everyday stress as well as clinical problems [source: #36; #63].
• Nonprofessional, leaderless, rotating trusted servants. The person running a meeting keeps it on task and is not an authority; decisions are made by group conscience. Practical meaning: no one in EA should be treating your client [source: #28; #36; meeting format, Tradition 8].
• Anonymity and confidentiality. First names only; what is said stays in the meeting. Practical meaning: do not ask the client to report other members' stories; discuss only the client's own experience [source: #28; #63; meeting format].
• Spiritual, not religious; a Higher Power of one's own understanding. Members with or without belief are welcome; religion is not discussed. Practical meaning: help clients define a Higher Power in their own terms (the group, nature, values) rather than treat the word as a barrier [source: #28; #36; #37].
• Take what you like and leave the rest. Members accept only what works for them [source: #36].
• Use the programme, do not analyse it. Shares describe how a Step or tool was used, not theory or debate [source: meeting format, Helpful Concepts].
• Speak only for yourself; no judging, criticising, arguing or advising. Members are experts only on their own story [source: meeting format; #37].
• Focus on solutions, not problems. Dwelling on problems is seen as reinforcing a victim stance; linking difficulties to the current Step is seen as offering hope [source: #37].
• No labelling of degrees of illness or health; all members equal. [source: meeting format; Healthcare Provider page].
• Neutral on medication and therapy. EA neither endorses nor opposes any treatment and encourages members to follow their own provider's advice [source: Healthcare Provider page; #63].
• One day at a time; living with unsolved problems with peace of mind. [source: meeting format; Healthcare Provider page].
• Self-supporting; attraction rather than promotion; no outside affiliation. Practical meaning: EA will not send staff into your service, but you may post its flier and offer meeting space [source: #28; #63; Annual Report 2021–22].
• Service. Sharing with newcomers, hosting, sponsoring and service roles are part of recovery [source: #63; Annual Report 2021–22].

Principles for the clinician [synthesis]

• Refer, do not run. You support the client's use of EA; you do not chair, recruit for, or interpret EA on the fellowship's behalf.
• Complement, not substitute. Keep your treatment plan, risk management and any medication review separate from EA participation.
• Client autonomy. Present EA as one option; an unwilling or ambivalent client is offered a trial, not a prescription.
• Translate respectfully. Bridge EA language (powerlessness, defects, Higher Power) and your model's language without dismissing either.
• Protect the frame. Avoid attending the client's own meeting; dual relationships compromise both the client's anonymity and your role.

4. Intervention inventory

Part A covers what the clinician does; EA publishes almost none of this, so it is [synthesis] unless a source is cited. Part B covers the fellowship's own tools, described as EA publishes them so you can prepare, debrief and coordinate. You do not run Part B; the client uses it in EA. Twelve-Step texts, prayers and readings are paraphrased, not reproduced.

Part A. Clinician procedures

A1. Assessing fit

• Purpose / when: Before suggesting EA, for clients who are isolated, ashamed or lonely, have recurring anger, resentment, fear, guilt, grief, anxiety or low mood, need support between or after sessions, or have little access to services. EA lists these as common reasons members join and says some members have no clinical symptoms [source: #63]. Secondary sources note EA is used where psychiatric care is unavailable or resisted, and after psychiatric discharge [source: Wikipedia; uncertain].
• Steps [synthesis]: (1) Ask what support the client has between sessions. (2) Ask about past experience of Twelve-Step groups (own, family's, Al-Anon). (3) Explore attitudes to spiritual language and to group settings. (4) Check current risk and stability: acute suicidality, active psychosis or severe dissociation means you stabilise first and treat EA as a later adjunct, not a safety resource. (5) Consider practical access: local in-person meeting, phone or online. (6) Agree together whether to try it.
• Example language (illustrative): "Some people find it helps to have a peer group between our sessions. One option is Emotions Anonymous, a free, member-run Twelve-Step group for emotional difficulties. How does that sound to you?"
• Watch for: strong aversion to the word "powerless" or to spiritual framing (see Section 5); hope that the group will replace therapy or crisis care; social anxiety severe enough that a meeting would be a large exposure step (plan it as one).

A2. Preparing the client for a first meeting

• Purpose / when: Once the client agrees to try EA. Preparation reduces early drop-out [synthesis].
• Steps: (1) Find a specific meeting together using EAI's U.S. meeting database or its remote and virtual meeting search [source: Healthcare Provider page; #36]. (2) Describe what will happen: first names only, readings at the start, a Step or topic reading, timed sharing, no obligation to speak, a voluntary collection [source: meeting format; #28]. (3) Explain the norms: no crosstalk or advice during sharing, confidentiality, no discussion of religion or politics [source: #37; #28]. (4) Explain that "Higher Power" is left to each member to define [source: #36]. (5) Rehearse saying "I'll pass" or "I'm new and would just like to listen" [synthesis]. (6) Give or point to free pamphlets such as Welcome to a New Way of Life and How Our Meetings Work [source: Healthcare Provider page].
• Example language (illustrative): "You don't have to say anything. Most people just listen the first few times. If the leader turns to you, 'I'll pass, thanks' is completely fine there."
• Watch for: anticipatory anxiety (treat the first visit like a graded exposure task with a plan for arrival and leaving); privacy worries in small towns (offer a phone or online meeting).

A3. The trial period and meeting shopping

• Purpose / when: After the first meeting. EA suggests trying six to twelve meetings, and different meetings, before deciding [source: #37].
• Steps: (1) Agree a concrete trial (for example six meetings over six to eight weeks) [synthesis on timeframe]. (2) If the first group feels wrong, plan a different one rather than ending [source: #37]. (3) Review at the end of the trial: what helped, what did not, continue, switch or stop [synthesis].
• Example language (illustrative): "EA itself suggests giving it six to twelve meetings, and trying more than one group. Would you be willing to try that before deciding?"
• Watch for: decisions made after one meeting; a group whose own conduct breaches EA norms (advice-giving, cross-talk), which is a reason to try another group, not proof that EA cannot help.

A4. Debriefing meetings in session

• Purpose / when: Each session during the trial, then periodically. Keeps EA linked to therapy goals [synthesis].
• Steps [synthesis]: (1) Ask briefly whether the client attended and what they noticed in themselves. (2) Ask which tool, slogan or reading stayed with them. (3) Link it to current work (for example "one day at a time" with worry postponement, or acceptance with a values-based plan). (4) Ask about anything that unsettled them, including other members' stories. (5) Keep to the client's own experience: do not ask for identifying details about other members, consistent with EA confidentiality [source for confidentiality: #28; #63].
• Example language (illustrative): "Without telling me about anyone else, what was it like for you to be there this week? Did anything you heard fit what we're working on?"
• Watch for: working: client attends regularly, names tools spontaneously, reports less isolation. Not working: attendance with growing shame or self-blame, or using meetings to avoid therapy tasks.

A5. Integrating Step work with therapy

• Purpose / when: When the client starts working the Steps, usually in order with the EA book, the 12x12 workbook and often a sponsor [source: #37; Catalog].
• Steps [synthesis]: (1) Ask which Step the client is on and how they understand it. (2) Find parallels with your model without forcing them (for example acceptance-based work and Step 1's admission of powerlessness over emotions; a strengths-and-limitations inventory and values clarification). (3) Help the client pace demanding Steps, especially the moral inventory and making amends, with trauma and safety in mind (see Section 5). (4) Ask the client what the sponsor has suggested and decide together how it fits the treatment plan.
• Example language (illustrative): "Your group talks about accepting what you can't control. That sounds close to what we've been practising with letting a feeling be there without fighting it. Does it feel the same to you?"
• Watch for: the inventory turning into harsh self-criticism; amends plans that would expose the client to an abuser or legal risk.

A6. Working alongside a sponsor

• Purpose / when: When the client has a sponsor. EA describes a sponsor as a member working the Steps who shares experience, and whose detachment helps the newer member apply the programme. Sponsors are chosen personally, ideally someone trusted who has made progress, and can be changed; co-sponsorship (two people working the programme together) also exists [source: #37; Annual Report 2021–22].
• Steps [synthesis]: (1) Clarify roles with the client: the sponsor shares lived experience of the programme; you provide assessment, treatment and risk management. (2) Do not contact the sponsor unless the client asks and gives written consent; usually no contact is needed. (3) If the sponsor's suggestions conflict with treatment (for example on medication), go back to EA's own stated neutrality on treatment and its principle of no advice [source: Healthcare Provider page; meeting format].
• Example language (illustrative): "Your sponsor can share how they used the Steps. Decisions about medication or treatment are yours to make with me and your doctor. EA itself says it doesn't advise on that."
• Watch for: a sponsor acting as a therapist, crisis line or authority; the client choosing a sponsor who simply shares the same struggles, which EA says is usually not helpful [source: #37].

A7. Institutional collaboration

• Purpose / when: For services that want to make EA accessible.
• Steps: (1) Post the EA Meeting Flier in waiting areas; distribute free pamphlets (they may be printed and copied) [source: Healthcare Provider page; #36]. (2) Offer meeting space or help start a virtual meeting; EAI supplies materials and guidance on starting a group [source: #63]. (3) Keep the group member-run: staff provide room and information only, consistent with Tradition 8 and "attraction rather than promotion" [source: meeting format; Annual Report 2021–22].
• Example language (illustrative, to a service manager): "We'd host the room; members run the meeting. Our staff wouldn't lead or attend in a professional role."
• Watch for: staff chairing or steering the group, which turns it into a professional group and breaches EA's traditions.

Part B. Fellowship tools as EA publishes them (used by the client in EA)

EA describes its programme as a set of tools for daily life: the Steps, Traditions, Helpful Concepts, Serenity Prayer, slogans, Just for Today, literature, meetings, phone and personal contacts, and daily application [source: meeting format; Annual Report 2021–22].

B1. The weekly meeting

• Purpose / when: The core tool; a confidential, non-judgemental place to share and to hear how others use the programme, easing fear, loneliness and isolation [source: Healthcare Provider page].
• Steps (as one group publishes): opening overview → Serenity Prayer → readings by volunteers → reflection on the Step or topic → paragraph-by-paragraph reading → timed sharing → closing with confidentiality reminder, welcome to newcomers, collection and prayer [source: meeting format]. Clinician role: prepare and debrief (A2, A4).
• Example language (illustrative): "Each meeting follows roughly the same order, so after a couple of times you'll know what's coming."
• Watch for: regular attendance and the client describing feeling less alone indicate it is working [synthesis].

B2. Sharing

• Purpose / when: Members describe their own experience, feelings and how they have used the programme; speaking is voluntary [source: #28].
• Steps: In the published format, each share lasts about 2–3 minutes; the servant leader keeps time and gives a "Gentle Reminder", after which the member wraps up within a minute; anyone may pass; shares focus on how the Step or topic was used as a personal tool, not analysis or debate [source: meeting format]. Shares link difficulties to the current Step rather than recounting problems [source: #37].
• Example language (illustrative, coaching the client): "You might try one or two sentences: what the Step meant to you this week and one thing you tried."
• Watch for: clients who share traumatic detail and feel exposed afterwards; help them choose in advance what to keep private [synthesis].

B3. No crosstalk; feedback outside the meeting; phone contacts

• Purpose / when: Lets everyone share without being questioned or advised. Crosstalk means interrupting or side conversations during a share. Requests for specific feedback are taken before or after the meeting or by phone during the week; members support each other mainly by listening and sharing their own Step experience. The one sanctioned interruption is a gentle redirection when a member repeatedly rambles or complains off topic [source: #37].
• Steps (clinician): Explain the rule beforehand so silence after a share is not read as rejection; encourage the client to collect one or two phone contacts if they want between-meeting support [synthesis, building on #37 and the tool list in the meeting format].
• Example language (illustrative): "Nobody responds directly to what you say in the meeting. That's the rule, not a judgement on you."
• Watch for: a client who expected direct help and leaves disappointed; plan to use the before/after time or phone contacts.

B4. The Serenity Prayer

• Purpose / when: Said together at the opening and close of meetings [source: meeting format; text in #28]. Its theme (accepting what cannot be changed, courage to change what can, telling the two apart) underpins EA's acceptance focus [paraphrase].
• Steps (clinician): If the client finds it useful, it can serve as a brief between-meetings cue to sort a worry into "can act on" versus "must accept" [synthesis].
• Example language (illustrative): "When that worry comes up, which part of it is yours to change today, and which part isn't?"
• Watch for: discomfort with prayer language; members may define a Higher Power any way they choose, or simply stay silent [source: #36].

B5. The Twelve Steps

• Purpose / when: The personal recovery programme adapted from AA, with Step 1 concerning powerlessness over emotions [source: Wikipedia; #28]. In paraphrase the Steps move through admitting powerlessness, coming to believe in a Higher Power, turning one's will over to it, a moral inventory, admitting wrongs, becoming ready to have defects removed, making amends, continuing inventory, prayer and meditation, and carrying the message to others [source: meeting format, paraphrased].
• Steps: EA suggests working them in order, because earlier Steps lay the foundation; there is no single right way; the EA book and the 12x12 workbook (questions for each Step and Tradition) give direction; sharing the work with a sponsor or another member builds trust [source: #37; Catalog]. Members keep re-studying Steps because new meaning appears as self-awareness grows [source: #37]. Fourth Step support includes the pamphlets A Personal Inventory: Strengths & Limitations (#4) and Taking the Fear out of the Fourth Step (#74) [source: Catalog]. Clinician role: A5.
• Example language (illustrative): "Which Step is your group on this month, and what's it stirring up for you?"
• Watch for: Step work that increases shame, or amends that endanger the client (Section 5).

B6. The Twelve Traditions

• Purpose / when: Group-level principles: unity; ultimate authority expressed through group conscience; leaders as trusted servants; one membership requirement; group autonomy; one primary purpose of carrying the message; no outside entanglements; self-support; remaining nonprofessional; minimal organisation; no public controversy; attraction rather than promotion; anonymity [source: meeting format, paraphrased].
• Steps (clinician): Use them to understand group behaviour and boundaries (why EA will not endorse your service, take outside money, or let staff lead) [synthesis].
• Example language (illustrative): "EA groups run themselves; nobody there is in charge of you."
• Watch for: a group or member breaching them (someone acting as an authority, pressure to adopt beliefs); suggest another meeting.

B7. Helpful Concepts

• Purpose / when: Twelve guidelines read at meetings. In paraphrase: attend to help yourself and share experience; speak only from your own story; respect anonymity; no judging, criticising, arguing or advising on personal matters; do not dwell on problems; avoid outside debates such as religion and politics; EA is spiritual, not religious; a Higher Power of your own understanding; use the programme rather than analyse it; do not label degrees of illness or health; keep what is shared confidential [source: meeting format, paraphrased; exact list not verified against EA's official text, uncertain].
• Steps (clinician): Review them with a hesitant client; they often answer worries about being judged or preached at [synthesis].
• Example language (illustrative): "One of their guidelines is that nobody labels how ill or well anyone is."
• Watch for: misreading "don't analyse" as "don't think about it in therapy"; clarify the difference between meeting norms and therapy work [synthesis].

B8. Just for Today

• Purpose / when: Twelve daily resolutions under the heading "The Choice Is Mine". In paraphrase: live this day only; seek peace within; accept circumstances; care for body and mind; be kind and avoid criticism; plan the day and avoid hurry and indecision; take quiet time to meditate; do not fear happiness; do not compare yourself with others; believe you can live this one day [source: meeting format, paraphrased]. A women's mental-health programme (Wisdom of Women) adapted them for survivors of domestic violence with substance-use histories [source: Wikipedia citing Fearday & Cape 2004; uncertain].
• Steps (clinician): If the client finds one resolution meaningful, it can become a daily intention linked to existing behavioural goals (activity scheduling, self-care) [synthesis].
• Example language (illustrative): "Which one of those daily intentions would make the biggest difference this week?"
• Watch for: "just for today" used to avoid needed planning; balance with longer-term goals [synthesis].

B9. Slogans and the Four A's

• Purpose / when: Short reminders read at meetings, such as "One day at a time", "First things first", "Keep it simple", "I have a choice" and "Let go and let God", plus the Four A's: Awareness, Acceptance, Action, Attitude [source: meeting format; Catalog #10]. The number of slogans differs between readings of the same format (13 or 14) [uncertain].
• Steps (clinician): Invite the client to pick one slogan as a coping cue; the Four A's map onto a simple sequence of noticing, accepting, acting and reframing [synthesis].
• Example language (illustrative): "When you noticed the panic rising, which of the four A's could you have used first?"
• Watch for: slogans used to shut down feelings or to dismiss real problems.

B10. The Twelve Promises

• Purpose / when: Adapted from AA; they describe outcomes members report over time, such as peace of mind, freedom, acceptance, concern for others, better relationships and less self-pity [source: #28; meeting format, paraphrased].
• Steps (clinician): Use them to elicit hope and the client's own goals [synthesis].
• Example language (illustrative): "Which of those changes would you most want for yourself?"
• Watch for: self-criticism when promises seem slow to come; EA presents them as coming true over time [source: meeting format].

B11. Sponsorship and co-sponsorship

• Purpose / when: One-to-one support in applying the Steps [source: #63; #37]. EA states that sponsorship is encouraged, publishes a pamphlet on it (#25), notes a shortage of sponsors, and offers co-sponsorship (two members working the programme together) [source: Catalog; Annual Report 2021–22].
• Steps: Listen at meetings; choose someone trusted and comfortable who has made progress; ask; accept a refusal without hurt; change sponsors if needed [source: #37]. Clinician role: A6.
• Example language (illustrative): "Is there anyone in the group whose shares you relate to and who seems steady? That's often who people ask."
• Watch for: if no sponsor is available, co-sponsorship or phone contacts are alternatives [source: Annual Report 2021–22].

B12. Literature and daily reading

• Purpose / when: Emotions Anonymous (the "Big Book"), the Today daily reader (366 readings), It Works If You Work It (a how-to primer), the 12x12 workbook, Welcoming the Spiritual Awakening Within You (2019) and many pamphlets; several pamphlets are free online [source: EAI History page; Catalog; Wikipedia]. Contents of the books are [uncertain].
• Steps (clinician): Ask the client to bring a reading that resonated and use it as a bridge into the session theme [synthesis].
• Example language (illustrative): "Was there a reading this week that stuck with you?"
• Watch for: reading replacing attendance or contact with others.

B13. Service, group conscience and group inventory

• Purpose / when: Meetings are managed by rotating members; decisions are made by group conscience; members are invited to share recovery with newcomers, host, sponsor and serve [source: #28; #63; Annual Report 2021–22]. The Group Inventory pamphlet (#6) helps a group review how it functions [source: Catalog].
• Steps (clinician): When the client is stable, explore whether a service role fits their goals (structure, contribution, social contact) [synthesis]. No one is pressured to lead [source: #37].
• Example language (illustrative): "You mentioned they asked for a volunteer to lead next week. How would it feel to try that?"
• Watch for: over-commitment or people-pleasing driving service; perfectionism about leading.

B14. Remote and virtual meetings

• Purpose / when: Phone, Zoom and online chat meetings for people far from an in-person group, with mobility limits or privacy concerns [source: #28; #36; Healthcare Provider page].
• Steps (clinician): Help the client find one through EAI's remote meeting search; agree a private place to join; mute and camera-off are usually acceptable in such formats [synthesis on etiquette; uncertain].
• Example language (illustrative): "If going in person feels too much right now, a phone meeting is a real option."
• Watch for: passive listening that never moves to contact; privacy at home.

5. Handling problems

EA's own literature addresses only a few of these (marked with a source); the rest is [synthesis].

• "I'm not religious" / objection to God language. EA says it is spiritual, not religious; a Higher Power can be anything outside oneself; belief in God is not required; religion is not discussed at meetings [source: #36; #37; #63]. Response: explore what could stand outside the client (the group, nature, chosen values) and suggest the client try it with "take what you like and leave the rest" [source: #36]. If the objection stays strong, offer non-Twelve-Step peer support instead [synthesis].
• "Powerless over my emotions" clashes with therapy that builds agency. [synthesis] Distinguish not being able to control whether a feeling arises from being able to choose a response; EA itself uses "I have a choice" and the Four A's include Action [source for slogans: meeting format]. Avoid telling the client EA is wrong; help them hold both framings.
• Stuck after one or two meetings / "not for me". EA suggests six to twelve meetings and trying different groups [source: #37]. Review what specifically did not fit (size, tone, format, in-person versus online) and match accordingly [synthesis]. Accept a considered "no" without pressure.
• Non-attendance. [synthesis] Treat as information, not defiance: map barriers (anxiety, transport, schedule, shame), problem-solve one, or switch to a phone meeting. Do not make therapy conditional on attendance; EA is voluntary and does not coerce members [source for non-coercion: Wikipedia citing Moeller 1999; #28].
• Overwhelm from others' shares or from own disclosure. [synthesis] Prepare a plan to pass, step out briefly or use grounding; agree in advance what the client will not disclose; debrief next session. Consider a smaller or online meeting.
• Crisis, suicidality or acute deterioration. EA's provider materials give no crisis guidance and EA provides no professional services [source: Healthcare Provider page; #63]. [synthesis] Never use EA as a safety plan component in place of crisis services; the safety plan names professional and emergency contacts. Assess risk with your standard structured approach; follow your service's protocol; EA can be listed only as a social-connection resource once the client is stable.
• Members give advice, criticise or cross-talk. This breaches EA's own norms (no advice, no crosstalk, no judging) [source: #37; meeting format]. Response: name it as a group variation, not the programme, and suggest another meeting [synthesis].
• Advice that conflicts with treatment (e.g. stop medication). EA officially neither endorses nor opposes any medication or therapy and encourages members to follow their provider's advice [source: Healthcare Provider page; #63]. Response: point the client to that stated position; review the actual decision with the prescriber [synthesis].
• Sponsor overreach or dependency. [synthesis] Clarify roles (A6). EA says sponsors can be changed and no one is obligated to sponsor [source: #37]; support the client to change if the relationship becomes controlling, exploitative or romantic. Exploitation by any group member is a safeguarding issue to discuss with the client.
• Fourth Step inventory turning into self-attack. [synthesis] Slow down; suggest the strengths-and-limitations inventory format EA publishes [source for its existence: Catalog #4], and balance limitations with strengths; work on self-compassion in session.
• Amends involving an abuser, current danger or legal exposure. [synthesis] Help the client separate taking responsibility for their own conduct from contact with someone who harmed them; a direct amend is not required where it would harm the client or others (EA text on amends not drawn on [uncertain]). Plan any contact carefully and consider legal advice.
• Using EA to avoid therapy or vice versa. [synthesis] Name the pattern; agree which goals belong to which setting.
• Rupture: client feels pushed into EA, or feels the therapist dismisses it. [synthesis] Acknowledge, return choice to the client, and show curiosity about what the client values in the group.
• Confidentiality and small-community worries. EA uses first names only and treats what is said as confidential; a pamphlet on confidentiality (#86) exists [source: #63; Healthcare Provider page]. [synthesis] For clients who fear recognition, suggest an online or phone meeting in another area.
• Severe mental illness or intellectual disability. EA is open to anyone; it has been used after psychiatric discharge and, historically, in adapted groups for people with intellectual disabilities and substance use (1979, Ramsey County) [source: Wikipedia; uncertain]. [synthesis] Check the client can follow the reading-heavy format; offer to go over the readings in session; coordinate with the care team.
• Therapist wants to attend. Professionals may attend as ordinary members, not leaders [source: #28]. [synthesis] Do not attend a meeting your client attends; if you want to learn the format, use an open meeting in another area or EA's published materials.

Sources

Sources

• Welcome to a New Way of Life (EA pamphlet #28)
• Emotional Health 12 Step Support Group Meeting Flier (EA #36)
• How Our Meetings Work (EA pamphlet #37, 1995)
• Information about the EA 12 Step Program for the Healthcare Provider (EA #63) (also this version)
• Utilizing Not Analyzing Step Thursday EA Zoom Meeting format (also this copy)
• EA History (EAI)
• EA Information for Healthcare Providers (EAI)
• Emotions Anonymous Catalog (EAI)
• EAI Annual Report July 2021 – June 2022
• Emotions Anonymous (Wikipedia) (secondary)

Further reading (not drawn on)

• Emotions Anonymous International (1978; revised 1996). Emotions Anonymous. St. Paul, MN: EAI.
• Emotions Anonymous International (1987). Today. St. Paul, MN: EAI.
• Emotions Anonymous International (2003). It Works If You Work It. St. Paul, MN: EAI.
• Emotions Anonymous International (2019). Welcoming the Spiritual Awakening Within You. St. Paul, MN: EAI.
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Further reading (not drawn on): EA sponsorship pages and the Newcomer Information page; Timko and colleagues' intensive-referral trial for Twelve-Step groups (substance-use setting), which could inform A2–A3, is not drawn on, so the referral procedures above are [synthesis].